he who hesitates is toast

Of course it made him sad, the same way this is making her sad. There's no way through this that won't be lined with sorrow and hurt and new grief all the way along the path.

But it's worth it. It's all worth it. "He was more sad before," she murmurs. "After we lost you. So was I. Being sad now doesn't mean we don't want to do it."